John MacArthur & Gay Christians

First, I’m pretty sure this guy is basing this on The D.E.N.N.I.S. System

Second, he demonstrates the first and most important reality of institutionalization; there is no greater threat than the enemy within.

No danger to the institution is worse than the heretic.

When someone challenges the institution the response is simple:

Separate entirely

I don’t like institutions

For the context, watch this video

Water & Leaves

I like tea

It’s a simple beverage

Tea leaves soaked in hot water until the leaves flavor the water

You can fancy it up, add sweeteners or milk, chill and add some fruit maybe

But the basic ingredients are simple

Hot water
Tea leaves

Brings this Bible passage to mind:

When the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together, and one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. “Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?” He said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the greatest and first commandment. And a second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

Matthew 22:34-40 NRSVCE

Jesus gives Christians two basic ingredients here:

Love God
Love your neighbors

Fancy it up however you want; you need these two ingredients

When you have them, you have the basic ingredients necessary to be a Christian

Some focus on the first ingredient, after all Jesus calls it the greatest commandment

It’s like the hot water for tea

Tea is something you drink after all
Without a liquid you don’t even have the fundamental basis for a beverage

The most important thing before you even try to have tea is to find some water

But you cannot ignore the second step
If you don’t actually put the tea leaves in the water, then all you’ll ever have is a cup of hot water

Many who claim to follow Christ do this with the greatest commandment

They proclaim their love for God
They have the cup of hot water

But they refuse to love their neighbor
They refuse to add the tea leaves

Dress the water up in the fanciest trappings and the excruciatingly intricate language you want

It’s still just a cup of hot water

If you want to make a commitment to Christ, he made himself clear

Get your water
And put the leaves in it

(Next post: Finding Fire & a Cup)

I have no right to take the medications my doctors prescribe; I can pay for the privilege of taking them

It’s that time of year again where I have to fight with insurance and with all that goes into public discourse I thought I’d share my experience. Every time my insurance changes, and frequently even if it doesn’t, I have to go through a roughly 3 week process of getting the policy to pay for my meds. On this same piece of paper is a list of “alternative” meds with an asterisk after them. If you follow the asterisk to the bottom of the page, the text reads:

These recommendations are not a substitute for medical advice. Please consult your healthcare provider.

The irony here is that I have, in fact, already consulted with my doctor. That doctor prescribed me the medication that is being denied. So now I have to prepare for weeks of arguing with the insurance, requesting appeals and exceptions, getting documentation from my provider, all to get the insurance company to acknowledge that the doctor did in fact prescribe a necessary treatment (which is hilarious to me since I’ve been on these meds for a decade).

And of course with each new shift in insurance policies there is always the potential that I will reach the point where my appeal requests will fail and I’ll either pay out of pocket or not take my meds or switch to other meds that don’t work, meds that my doctor has specifically told me not to take.

This has been my reality for so long that I’ve internalized it and find it utterly unsurprising when I receive this same letter each year from different companies.

I understand perfectly well the system we have devised in our country: I have no right to take the medications my doctors prescribe; I can pay for the privilege of taking them.

So many don’t seem to understand this. Not just young people but all age ranges. “I need these medications!” No, you want them. We have decided as a society that no one needs anything but emergency care and anything that may want after that to get the best treatment is a privilege that they are financially responsible for, even if it means chronic illness or death not to receive.

If you want that to change, so be it. Go vote. But understand that this is the reality. Right, wrong, doesn’t matter. Reality.


I’d like to define ethnicity in a very simple way

Not a task I think I’ll succeed at, just something I think is necessary

Ethnicity at it’s most basic level can be broke into 2 parts:


Ancestry being who our parents were. Usually where they are from geographically is an important part of that.

Culture being traditions, norms, customs, mythology, and so on. These are passed to us by our parents, usually passed down from their families over multiple generations.

One bit of nuance here; we all have a tendency to intermingle our ancestry with our culture. We believe that the cultural norms and so on are inherent aspects of our ancestry and biology, which is not true (if you want proof go to a library, a lot of thorough research has been done on the subject).

Often this intermingling turns into a form of ethnocentrism. My ancestors are better than yours. Because my culture is better than yours. And how do I know that!? Because my ancestors say so!

So there you have it
My attempt at a simple explanation

Ethnicity = Ancestry and Culture

The biology of where we come from
And the myths we tell ourselves about who we are. Often those myths tell us what our biology and ancestry means, and often what those myths tell us about our biology is inaccurate

True love is not the kind of thing you should turn down, don’t ever turn it down

Christians get it so wrong about marriage and the LGBTQ demographic.

2 people wanting to commit to each other and spend their lives together isn’t going to destroy marriage

Plenty of other things do that

A mother and father who decide not to get married. Their jobs don’t give them health benefits so they avoid being legally connected to keep state Medicaid benefits. And they both have to work to make ends meet. Just enough work mind you; not too much or they lose the benefits

That destroys the institution of marriage

Individuals treating their spouse like garbage. Beating them, degrading them, abusing them in every way conceivable. And then we as a society heap guilt on the spouse that chooses to leave that situation. Making them feel like a failure; like they’ve failed God.

That ruins the institution of marriage

Defending powerful politicians who have affairs or abandon their spouses. Politicians from any side of the aisle. Defending them out of fear that your side will lose its position of authority and influence if you become vocal and critical

That destroys the institution of marriage

Marriage is a manifestation of the greatest commandments

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” -Matthew 22:37-40

Marriage should be the most intimate example of that love

The clearest and most ideal model for us all to follow in our relationships with others

A relationship that is

Always uplifting
Never abusive
Always compassionate
Never cruel
Always forgiving
Never exploitative
Always restorative
Never disparaging
Always humble
Never arrogant

Show me a relationship like that and I’ll be looking at everything a marriage should be

I could care less
what the individuals look like
what the individuals’ sexual orientation is
what pronouns they use

I don’t care what kind of tree the fruit grows on, just that the fruit itself isn’t a poison to the people who grow it

I’m certain that God doesn’t care either

(the title of this post is from an Avett Brothers song)

Bearing fruit is a ridiculously common Christian metaphor. It’s in the Bible a lot, though I do think it gets overused.

Even so, it IS a good metaphor, so I’ll use it again.

When it comes to marriage and other relationships, you’ll here a lot of people talk about traditional marriage or maybe Godly marriage. I say, be critical of those who disguise their words in tradition and authority and ask yourself this; when you look at a relationship how does it effect the people in it? The people influenced by it? Does it bear good fruit? Or bad fruit?

Because every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.

Ancestry: built on graves

I’ve come to the painfully obvious conclusion that most people don’t understand how DNA & ancestry work. The way you inherit genes can’t be expressed by fractions or percentages. That’s just not how your genes work.

For a brief breakdown check out these links

If you want a better understanding of the subject more broadly

I would recommend reading these books

Here’s the reason I have this on my mind

Because it’s currently a hot topic, I’d like to talk about Native American ancestry

My family genealogy records a First Nation ancestor born in the Mohawk Valley 8 generations ago. She married a Scottish immigrant on the Canadian side of my family. The side that were Imperial Loyalists during the Revolutionary War.

This small part of my family history gives me these specific takeaways:

First; I would never call myself Native American. Since this First Nation ancestor and Scottish ancestor had children they passed down a Scottish/British identity. Combine all my other European ancestry and you forge the identity I was raised with, which is thoroughly Euro-American. The experiences that Native Americans have struggled with affected that woman generations ago to some degree I’m sure. But not so much for her descendants. Definitely not for me.

Second; this ancestry isn’t meaningless. I’m glad I know about it and I should think about it. We should all think about where we came from and how we came to be in the circumstances we’re in.

And third; this part of my ancestry and the circumstances of my life have a dark connection. Thinking back on this woman and trying to imagine what she went through in her life is a powerful reminder that my comfortable and stable life is built on graves. All the advantages I’ve had as an American are the direct result of a long, slow ethnic cleansing.

My native ancestor should always motivate me to support the modern communities that my other ancestors oppressed

To support the communities still being devastated by the exploitations from which my stability derives

It’s true that my parents always worked hard for me and I appreciate that

Same with my grandparents

But I can never escape from the fact that all my advantages have an underlying foundation in exploitation.

I benefit from crimes against the First Nations of this continent

It’s important that I never forget that.

That none of us do.

Foot note: I will mention that my aunt, who is amazing, is primarily responsible for the research into that part of my family genealogy. I can’t say that I’ve done the research myself. I am relying on her efforts. I don’t know why she would lie and I believe. But for the sake of being transparent the facts of my family history are not something I can claim as being certain.


Biology is the story that nature tells us about ourselves

Culture is the story that we tell about ourselves

True that we often attribute our cultural story to some other force

A deity
Or deities
Sometimes our ansestors

But ultimately we ourselves are the ones who pass on those stories

That’s why they’re so variable from group to group

Even groups like Christians who have a book that records their story can’t agree on how to tell the story

And as a result you get versions of the story so different that it becomes difficult or even impossible to see them as one

We tell our story
We create our culture and renew it
We tell ourselves who we are

I want to make sure I am proud of the story I tell myself
I want to make sure the story I tell others about myself is a story in which I actually want to be a character

As a Christian
As a man
As an American

And not only the story of who I am
But also the story of who I want to be
The story of who I strive to be

Be sure to tell your story well